by Tamiko Teshima, M.A., CCC-SLP
Practice Owner & Speech-Language Pathologist
Duncan Lake Speech Therapy, LLC
When children are developing language skills, how we communicate with them matters. We’ve talked about many different ways to have more enriching language interactions at home in previous blog posts. However, one of the most effective ways to encourage communication is through modeling without expectation, or demonstrating language without requiring or pressuring a child to respond. Whether a child is learning to speak, use gestures, or communicate through an AAC (Augmentative and Alternative Communication) device, modeling without expectation provides them with a low-pressure environment where they can absorb and process language at their own pace.
Rather than prompting a child to speak or respond immediately, we create a space where language is modeled naturally and meaningfully. Here’s how to incorporate this approach into everyday interactions.
Model Language During Play
Play is one of the most effective ways for children to learn because it is fun, engaging, and free from pressure. When children are immersed in play, they are more likely to absorb and experiment with language in meaningful ways.
Example: Instead of asking, “What are you building?” while playing with blocks, try modeling: “Wow, you’re stacking so high!” or “Crash! The tower fell down!” By narrating actions and emotions, you provide rich language input without demanding a response.
Model More, Ask Questions Less
As adults, we often use questions to engage with children, but too many questions can create communication pressure. When a child feels like they are constantly expected to answer, it can be overwhelming and even discourage them from participating in conversation.
Example: Instead of asking, “What color is that?” or “Do you want more?”, try modeling the words yourself:
- “That car is red!”
- “Mmm, more crackers!”
This approach allows children to hear language in context without the stress of needing to respond. If they do choose to respond—great! If not, they are still gaining valuable language exposure.
Repeat, Repeat, Repeat!
Repetition helps children build connections between words and their meanings. The more they hear words and phrases in different situations, the more familiar and meaningful those words become.
Example: If you frequently say “All done!” when finishing an activity, your child may begin to recognize and use that phrase when they are ready to stop. By consistently modeling the same words across different routines, children start to internalize language and use it when they are ready.
Try to Create Scripts
Predictable language within daily routines helps children understand how and when to use certain words. By using consistent phrases in familiar contexts, children begin to anticipate what comes next and may start participating in the interaction.
Example:
- Before starting an activity: “Ready, set…GO!” (Your child might eventually join in on the “GO!”)
- During transitions: “Time to clean up!” (They may begin to echo or follow the phrase.)
- At mealtimes: “Big bite!” or “More, please!” (They may begin using these phrases when hungry.)
Using predictable scripts helps children feel confident in their communication and provides a natural way for them to join conversations.
Language development is not a one-size-fits-all process. Some children pick up language quickly, while others need more time and support. By modeling words and phrases in everyday interactions without requiring an immediate response, we create a safe and supportive environment for communication growth.
Even if a child does not immediately imitate or respond, they are still learning. They are listening, processing, and internalizing language, which will help them communicate when they are ready.
At Duncan Lake Speech Therapy, we believe in fostering communication in a way that is natural, pressure-free, and supportive. If you have questions about how to encourage your child’s language development, don’t hesitate to reach out!
